Photo: P. Ree and F. Nietzsche submit to be draft animals in the service of Lou Salome

Men who need women for masculinity validation are doomed to a life of emotional slavery and personality degradation.

How do you know if you are such a man? Here’s how. If a woman makes you feel a heightened sense of self-esteem, self-confidence, ambition and drive that is lacking otherwise; if you feel that you could not live without her; if you would do anything for her although she often treats you badly; if she makes you feel like a man some of the time and a shit the rest of the time; if you have fallen helplessly in love with her … then you are such a needful man and you are likely doomed without knowing it!  Some guys find out the hard way.

Sherrone Moore, the Michigan State football coach who just got fired for having an “inappropriate” relationship with a female underling is a perfect example of a man doomed by his strongly felt need to have his masculinity validated by a woman.  He was emotionally addicted to the young woman with whom he was having an affair.  He had given himself up to her power over him.  His relinquishment of his power to her was his downfall.  He was smitten unto derangement, totally hooked on her! You can always tell how desperately hooked on a woman a man is after he gets dumped by her.  True to form, Moore hit that wall and then made the very bad worse and worse. 

His emotional enslavement to his assistant coach, his abject need for the validation of his masculinity from her, became disgustingly clear after he got fired when he threatened to kill himself as a way of punishing her for ratting to the university, saying it would be her fault that he did it. Oh, excuse me while I gag.  

Suicide as a way of punishing others is the simpering passive aggressive threat of a lost soul, a doomed soul, the floundering of a powerless cuck.  On the other side, her complaint to the university, knowing that it would totally ruin the man’s life while saving her ass, shows the depth of her uncaring vitriol—as the house of cards they built together came crashing down on him.

How is it that men become helplessly, emotionally and ontologically dependent on women for ‘masculinity validation’?

Some might say that Sherrone shouldn’t have gotten romantically involved with her in the first place since she was his assistant, his subordinate.  But that is a naïve viewpoint and a fruitless argument.  The idea that there are not going to be love affairs between bosses and subordinates is unrealistic. It happens. Always has, always will.  C’mon, Sherrone’s girlfriend there is a grown woman who wants to be equal.  Okay then, man-up, woman!  Making it seem like he took advantage of her is pure bullshit.  It’s the proverbial pot calling the kettle black.  When are women going to start taking responsibility for their actions?

If you look closely (i.e., truthfully), in fact, you will see how she made it happen.  She decided to seduce her boss, thus making the extramarital relationship possible.  The instigation, the solicitation of the woman is essential. He could not have had an affair with her without her wanting it and without her making it happen. 

He was a wedlock-fatigued, emotionally needy black coach with a wife and three kids.  She was a cute young blond.  When she batted her eyelashes at him, he didn’t stand a chance because he was needy and vulnerable.  I don’t know what his married life was like, but the fact that he was having the affair at all suggests that his marriage was not satisfying his need for masculinity validation.  So, he went looking elsewhere.

Most men are putty in the hands of a seductive woman intent on scoring with them.  Monica Lewinsky seduced Bill Clinton.  They make it sound like he was taking unfair advantage of her, but it was actually her that made it happen.  Bill fell (tumbled, crumpled) under Monica’s seductive spell.  She was always the one in charge because Bill was always the one in need.  You would be too if you were married to Hillary. 

Men don’t have the power to make a sexual relationship happen with a woman on their command.  It helps to be in a position of power, of course.  But even then, the woman is in charge.  The woman has the power to make it happen or not.  And she can always yell “Rape!”—her special anti-male weapon.  The man can do whatever he wants but the decision to have sex will always be up to the woman. The woman is always truly responsible for spreading her legs, but the man, helpless though he is, is always blamed for causing the deed to be done.  Because women are not held accountable for the use and abuse of their earthy, seductive power, they are dangerous for men, toxic.

Think about poor John the Baptist there in the Bible.  It is the sexy young Salome who brings Herod, the king, under her spell at his birthday party, and drives him into a lust-nut craze.  She dances seductively in front of him, and he is smitten, doomed. He gives her power over himself.  He is so enchanted with her that he blurts out that he will give her anything she wants, half his kingdom.  He will execute an innocent man for her, if she wants.

Now there is a man who is totally under the sexual power of the woman—a lost soul, doomed, strangled by his unbridled infatuation.  But it is the sexpot and her vicious, serpentine mother, Herodias, who are responsible for the beheading of John the Baptist.

Even the great sovereign individualist Nietzsche came under the disastrous spell of a young temptress, another Salome, Lou Salome.  Lou was a sexy, rich and well-educated seductive enchantress.  Friedrich really bit the dust on this one.  He goes all out for her, head over heels, proposes marriage numerous times and finally is devastated by her ultimate rejection of him.  Instead, and to make Nietzsche’s emasculation complete, she moves in with his best friend, Paul Ree.  It was like a knee to the crotch. The final blow.

Salome was the great philosopher’s undoing.  Maybe it is what drove him mad and ultimately killed him.  For all his talk of the Sovereign Individual, he renounced his sovereignty willingly and readily for this globe-trotting, narcissistic Daddy’s girl (see photo above).  How desperately he wanted validation from her!  Lou was always in charge despite all of Nietzsche’s chest-thumping when he was with her.  She wound him up and then casually tossed him away.  But how emotionally vulnerable Nietzsche was!  The great man who had been raised by a series of women was completely vulnerable to the womanly wiles of Salome.  He never recovered from it.  “Going to see a woman?” he would say. “Don’t forget to take your whip!” from Thus Spoke Zarathustra

One final, personal note. Men who need women for masculinity validation were consistently the kinds of men who ended up in my anger management classes after being arrested for domestic abuse.  For them, deluded as such men are, their anger and violence is always her fault. 

What they don’t see, what they would come to see in my class, is that they give up their power to the woman because she is like a drug that makes them feel good and then they feel the need to control the power they have given away, and then they get angry when they can’t control her and feel insecure because of the power she wields over them to make them feel good (or bad).  Then the need to control escalates to physical attempts to control her and they end up in my anger management class working to get detached from their need for a woman to validate their masculinity.

Last word.  It wasn’t that long ago that what we call domestic abuse today was required of the master of the house.  What happened to that sound thinking?  Here’s what happened. The women rebelled and all the pro-feminist men bowed down and castrated themselves, paving the way for the feminist assault on Western culture and beyond. Woe is us!

It’s about time men started going their own way (MGTOW).

Remember: If nobody is calling you a misogynist, you are surely not speaking honestly about women in general, and feminists in particular.